Clinging to Comfort (Featuring Vee Montanez)

ITSJUSTNIKIA
Mar 1, 2020
3 min read

Updated: Mar 2, 2020

Breaking generational curses

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Everything we want is on the other side of fear.

Expose it.
Restructure it.
Make a commitment.

Exposure

Expose every area of your life as you know it in the present moment. Acknowledgement in the present leads to aspirations achieved in the future. You have to be willing to explore the things that worry you, those thoughts that scare you, that anger you’ve been holding onto. The resentment you’ve buried. The anguish you’ve suppressed. That hurt you never shared with anyone because you didn’t truly believe the situation would ever change. If you don’t relinquish your baggage, the anchors that weigh us down then we’ll never truly be free to pursue all that we were designed to achieve. Anything you refuse to deal with will be the very thing that brings you to your knees.

I choose to remain transparent because I can’t afford to hide in the things that previously tried to break me. If I stay in my head then I’ll go right back to the same vices I said wouldn’t claim me. If I never assess my trauma I can’t expect to see any triumph because I’m constantly keeping something in the pocket. Life will ensure you have battles to fight. Trust me. Do yourself a favor and eliminate the waste that says:

“This is just how I am. I can’t forgive. I’ll never be able to relax. I couldn’t possibly claim that. It isn’t for me. Healing? Nah. Don’t know her.“

Creating something that outlasts you - involves ensuring you overcome what those before you couldn’t, and, I know that’s heavy....but it’s gon‘ be what’s it gon‘ be. The struggle is a reality we all face in some way. That being said, leave no room excuses. Tackle your fears. Sit across from your demons. Get acquainted with your peace.

Affirm your peace

Affirm your joy

Affirm your future

Love you

The Restructuring

Restructuring your trauma is something I’ve discussed in previous episodes but I really want to emphasize that restructuring isn’t repacking your issues post exposure. It isn’t saying: “Okay I see it. I know what it is. But I can’t deal with it so I’m just going to put this over here. Out of sight. Out of mind...there...I dealt with it.”

No. Restructuring is recovery. It’s going to therapy if need be. It involves creating a healthier relationship with self. Restructuring embraces growth and removes anything that doesn’t benefit the agenda. Restructuring says I want to be the best version of me.

Commitment

Upon exposure and reconstruction comes the really, really, really hard part. Keeping it up. You have to now commit. I mean really,,, commit. You feel me?

Commit to better. Commit to your dreams. Commit to your passions. Commit to loving yourself. Commit to it never again being like it used to be. Own your failures as strongly as your successes and know you are capable of exceeding the worlds expectations.

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Journal Entry

What areas of your life are you able to identify that require exposure?
This a matter of progress. Not perfection. That being said are there areas of your life you “worked” on that still require your attention? What are you repacking?
How can you better commit to the process? How can you encourage others to do the same?

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